The word tolerance, while a very popular term in today’s western civilization, only appears twice in the biblical text. Both occurrences are in the New Testament, with Romans 2:4 referring to God’s “kindness and tolerance” towards humanity. This same Greek word anoché (ἀνοχή) is also translated “forbearance” in some Bibles, and is not a reference to forgiveness, but instead, conveys the idea of delaying due / righteous / fully justified punishment. God’s pretermission is in view … a willful, intentional delay or temporary disregarding of a matter or issue!
In Ephesians 4:2-3 we are instructed to walk in a manner worthy of our spiritual calling …
“with all humility and gentleness, with patience, showing tolerance for one another in love, being diligent to preserve the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.”
Here, this instruction is clearly relational, as we deal with one another as brothers and sisters in Christ. Nonetheless, this is not an endorsement of wicked, sinful behavior or the validation of rebellion against the Lord and His sustaining Truth. Believers are never instructed to approve sin as a demonstration of one’s tolerance or forbearance. However, this is too often expected and / or what is anticipated under the somewhat ambiguous misused and misunderstood cover of “Christian love!” Our intolerant world seeks the approval of their sin under the skewed auspices of tolerance! We have no such calling.
The main biblical concept of tolerance and forbearance, as found in our New Testament scriptures, conveys the idea of refusing to focus in on the imperfections of a fellow believer.
We must gracefully and patiently allow (tolerate) each individual to build his walk in his own way, helping them out of sinful, destructive patterns through the encouragement of good, wise counsel and the properly explained / illustrated / demonstrated applications of biblical truth. We too often are frustrated because a brother or sister does not think our way, or do something our way (which actually might be the very best)! Nonetheless, sometimes an individual’s spiritual development is best left to learning from their own mistakes, failures, etc. With this we are called to forebear, demonstrating tolerance in the framework of genuine Christian encouragement, truth, and love (Ephesians 4:2-3).
Colossians 3:12-15 seems to offer a very clear perspective.
“So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience; bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you. Beyond all these things put on love, which is the perfect bond of unity. Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body; and be thankful.”
A spirit of fault-finding and /or little inequalities in a look, temperament, style, manners, cultural issues, etc. may quickly neutralize all the good or blessing you can offer a fellow brother or sister.
Over the past 2.5 years, in what I call the ERA of COVID, a broad range of theoretical debates and attitudes regarding public health, political freedom, online worship, the wearing of masks to church gatherings, the devaluing of long-term, meaningful relationships, giving, etc., etc., etc., have stirred up great difficulties for the church and divided individuals. At West Oaks Fellowship, we have attempted to extend tolerance and forbearance to all – however, that’s a two-way street. Genuinely redeemed humans must decide if it is their responsibility or not to embrace biblical tolerance and forbearance in response to the Truth of God’s Word. Self-restraint should not be necessary if we make sure that personal preferences and personal convictions never infringe upon or threaten the sacred fellowship and shared mission of God’s people / Christ’s Church.
Pray about it.
— PF